6 Steps to Achieving the Life you Want by Effective Goal Setting

Are you setting effective goals and do you have a plan, or do you just pray you will achieve them?

Please bear in mind that the businesses I reference might not be trading now, but there will be successful business trading today who have used or are using the models mentioned.

What I am about to discuss here is taken from a book I wrote in 2014. The book is called Don’t Jinx it Map it.

My book is no longer available, but if you are curious to read more visit my blog regularly and it will be broken down into 6 managable steps.  Each one of the 6 steps will be broken down and explained in detail in order to ensure that your goal setting is effective.

What is a goal and what is effective goal setting?

Effective goal setting is normally based around 5 key components. Those 5 key components of effective goals setting are making sure that effective goals setting takes into consideration whether those goals are Specific, Measurable. Achievable, Realistic and Timely.

  1. Specific
  2. Measurable
  3. Achieveable
  4. Realistic
  5. Timely

If you take these 5 key elements and embed them into your effective goal setting plan, then this is said to be an indication of your goals success.

Every business, individual, organisation, charity, project, meeting, board, council, etc needs a plan in order to work towards their goals and in that plan there needs to be reference to how those goals are going to be achieved and how effective they will be and indicate the outcomes associated with those effective goals.

Each goal in order to be effective needs to have specific outcomes associated with it and those outcomes in order to be effective need to be factored into those initial goals.

Jim Rohn the famous entrepreneur said:

“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” – Jim Rohn

So my question to you is:

  • Do you have desires, dreams and goals but struggle to realise them?
  • Do you wish the voices inside your head didn’t hold you back from getting the life you want?
  • Do you fear that the ideas you have are unattainable?
  • Do you procrastinate every day and as such nothing gets done?
  • Do you wish there were more hours in a day?
  • Are you living life or is life living you?

Don’t jinx it map it puts into perspective how simple it is to plan the life you want and how important it is to have achievable goals.

The tips and tricks in the book can be utilised in all areas of your life, for example, in relation to education, career ambitions, planning for the job of your dreams and how to have a satisfying and fulfilling personal relationship.

It all depends on how committed you are to achieving your desires, dreams and goals and how successfully you have planned to achieve them.

Success in life depends on the plans you make, the actions and behaviours you adopt and take, and effective goals setting and decision-making is vital to the progress in all areas of life.

The Plan


A school boy entrepreneur dubbed ‘the next Alan Sugar’ told of his pride today at making his first £MILLION – after starting his business at the age of 14.

Christian, from Corby, Northants., currently employs eight adult workers around the UK and America as sales and technical assistants and plans to open two Branchr offices in the next year.

He invests the majority of his earnings back into his businesses and is determined to make £100 million with Branchr in the future.

“My aim is to become a leading name in the world of internet and mobile advertising and push myself right to the top of the game.”


After seeing a junk hauling truck in front of him at a McDonald’s drive-thru, in 1989 Brian Scudamore—then 18—purchased a used pickup truck for $700 and came up with the name The Rubbish Boys and the slogan “We’ll stash your trash in a flash.”

As the business grew, Scudamore began to hire other students to handle the workload and started a summer student franchise program. The crews would “junk patrol” alleys looking for junk that the city haulers wouldn’t take away.

Scudamore has gone on to launch two other franchised companies: WOW 1 DAY PAINTING—a company that paints homes and businesses in a day—and You Move Me, a local moving company.  Remember very often in business the simple ideas are the most profitable.


At the age of 13 Dominic McVey imported scooters. Seeing a gap in the market by the age of 15 he was a millionaire. His incentive for starting his business was not financial it was his desire to prove that teenagers can be successful. Now in his 29th year is owns an impressive portfolio of businesses.


Claire Barratt, Founder and Managing Director of ClaireaBella, a lifestyle brand started business on her a dining room table to simply earn a little extra money for her family. Claire now manages a multi million pound online organisation, selling her bags and other products, which are often seen on the arms of the rich and famous.

We live in a precarious world full of doubt and uncertainty, and that doubt and uncertainty does hold some of us back from moving on and that doubt is most definitely the enemy of decision-making.

Doubt has an overwhelming hold over the conscious mind, but if we search our unconscious mind, doubt is what should be ensuring we achieve the life we want to live. Doubting something is unattainable leads us to never taking a chance, to dreaming and striving for the life that we were supposed to live.

Here in the United Kingdom (UK) right now we are  dealing with the uncertaintly of Brexit.  For those of us who voted to leave the European Union (EU), because we were fed up of being told lies and being governed by faceless unelected beuracrates, leaving the EU is vital for the future and in order to ensure that positive future effective goals are being set now which will mean the UK is secure for generations to come.

However, some experts say that the world is disintegrating, melting, disappearing, but still there are people out there who see the importance of developing and attaining a rich and satisfying life and living their dream and even when doubt and uncertainty creep in, they embrace the doubt and uncertainty and this only makes them reach higher and higher to achieving what and planning for the life they want. Only this week I received an email discussing the importance of planning. The email suggested planning for the whole year. Setting out and deciding what you want to accomplish in the next year of your life. Doubting something has the possibility of not working, but really believing it will have driven many people for centuries to making sure what they doubted would work did work. Knowledge is power, but it is not about the knowledge it is about what you do with it that makes the difference.

In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Stephen Covey said. “Begin with the end in mind.” Always, have some sort of idea of what you are aiming to achieve, what you want, how will you know when you have achieved it, and importantly when do you want to have achieved it by. Also, it is important to explore the practicalities of your desires, dreams and effective goals and to explore the present reality of your situation, for example it is necessary to contemplate what you have done specifically so far to achieve your desires, dreams and effective goals and what challenges you have met and overcome. It is also important to celebrate adversity and fear, as you will see further on in this book. A vitally salient aspect of the last point is to recognise the strengths you have now which may help.

When embarking on any journey of discovery, especially in relation to what you can achieve it is also important to consider stretching beyond what you have tried before. What could you do, particularly if you had all the time in the world? Lastly, you need to commit to your desires, dreams and goals, for example which actions could you take to make things easier and take less time, which guards against procrastination, what might stop you, and do you have a time frame?

As an advocate of the importance of knowing where you are heading in life I support planning, as planning facilitates focus and determination and a belief that all things are possible, if the will is strong and supports our ambition, then plans are successful. It’s not about steadfastly adhering to the plan; it is more about having the plan in the first place. It doesn’t have to be set in stone, but the mere fact that you have one shows aspiration to work towards a desire, dream or goal.

In my next blog post I will be discussing the important steps you need to be considering in order to achieve the life you want by turning your desires, dreams and effective goal setting into actions and making decisions that count.

To Your Ultimate Success

The BrainWave Therapist


  1. Great article! Many impressive stories here that I haven’t heard before, thank you for sharing these great tips! 🙂

    Dearest regards, Torgny

    • Hi Torgny
      Thank you for leaving a comment and for your feedback.
      This was just the introduction, so watch out for the next blog which is going to talk about Step 1 of the 6 and the Free video training, which will be available shortly.

      To Your Ultimate Success
      The BrainWave Therapist

  2. Hey Sandra. Thank you for sharing this wonderful ideas. I am a big fan of goal setting. I think we are goal oriented beings and we always strive towards improvement. I like the work of Bryan Tracy. He changed my life. His goal setting advice is really great and I highly recommend him to anyone interested in personal development and personal growth.

    He has great tips about time management as well.

    • Hi there
      Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment. I agree that Bryan Tracy has a lot of worthwhile advice in personal development and growth space and he is worth checking out.

      This is just the introduction to the 6 steps, so perhaps what I write will change your life, who knows. The 6 steps have been tried and tested personally, but there are many others out there. My number 1 tip is – you have to ask yourself, every day, is what I am doing right now taking me towards or further away from my goal? That’s great time management! Watch out for the actual 6 steps video.

      To Your Ultimate Success
      The BrainWave Therapist

  3. Hi Sandra, I’ve worked in the personal development industry for . . . shhh, more than 30 years and agree completely with what you said very eloquently. The case studies are great examples too and inspiring. All those people chose success and achieved it. A great lesson.

    • Hello Steve
      Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment. I totally agree that success is a choice we make.
      Earl Nightingale – The Special Secret talked about success and how it is viewed. If you are doing what you want to do with your life. then you are successful. If you are a doctor and you have always wanted to be one, then you are successful, likewise a teacher, a therapist, a coach a consultant and entrepreneur. In fact, if what you are doing is fulfilling your life, your dreams, your desires, then you are successful.


      To Your Ultimate Success

  4. What an inspiring article it is. While reading your article, I pondered what I have been doing for my goal, where I am, and what direction I am heading to. I answered each of your five questions. This is my answer. “I have no fear, and I have strong desire to achieve my goal. Recently, I began to live my life and I am quite busy with my efforts to achieve my goal.” Sounds not bad?

    In this article, there are several phrases which capture my attention such as “Simple ideas are most profitable”, “Stretching beyond what you have tried before”. I will keep these phrases in my mind.

    I have enjoyed reading “7 habits of highly effective people”. Thank you for reminding several quotes from this book. By the way, I also love two other books I recently read: “Unscripted” and “Millionaire Fastlane” by MJ DeMarco. These two books helped me setting up my new goals which are unconventional but attainable.

    I am pursuing a new journey with a new goal, and your article is a great inspiration for setting more detailed plans. I look forward to reading the next blog. Thank you.

    • Hello Jason
      Thank you for leaving your comments. I really appreciate your time and thank you for recommending the books. I am also pleased that you are well on your way to achieving your goals and are concentrating on them fully.

      I am in the process of writing the next post explaining in more details the 6 simple steps you need to take, which by the way are tried and tested personally and have led to my success. I will ask for your comments once the blog is written and published.

      To Your Ultimate Success

    • Hello Jason
      Thank you for your comments. I really enjoyed reading your blog and I hope you continue to encourage parents to teach their children to read and encourage their development of the written word.

      To Your Ultimate Success

  5. What an inspiring and informative article!!
    I am a fan of personal development topics and I enjoyed reading your post.
    It is full of a certain truth and great inspirations to setting up an achievable goal for our life.
    Yes, we will each have to plan our lives – our project… And as you said, if our plan follows these 5 goals sitting principles, we will certainly succeed in our plan.
    Thank you for this inspiring post!!

    • Hello Sebastian
      Thank you for your comments and feedback. I am also pleased that my post has inspired you to continue with your goals.

      To Your Ultimate Success

  6. I’ve studied, and I still do whenever I have time, the science of goal setting and achieving. I’ve started by reading the book, a classic, Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill. The book introduced to a whole new level of thinking, and it all comes down to set a goal, believe in yourself, and work your butt off until you reach it. I’ve studied the material of Bob Proctor, who is the master of this field as well. There’s an unlimited power behind setting the right goals.

    Those stories you share are a true inspiration! I’ll remember your guidelines as well. Thank you for sharing your website with the world, and I wish you all the best in your work.

    • Hi Ivan
      Thank you for your comment.

      I have studied many so-called experts in personal development for years and what they say is nothing new. It was being taught over a hundred years ago.

      I have used NLP for over 20 years – the practice is about mirroring those who are successful and what makes them so. Arguably, the greatest psychotherapist was Milton Erickson said to be the Father of Modern Hypnosis – who was fundamental in the development of NLP

      If you like ‘Think and Grow Rich by Napolean Hill you will be very interested in checking out this link to an amazing YouTube Video where Napolean Hill explains the content of a meeting he had with Andrew Carnegie a 100 years ago. https://youtu.be/1GCaEZscfvA

      You will also benefit from checking out the work of Earl Nightingale – ‘The Special Secret’ – which will blow your mind as it did mine. ‘Success is the progressive realisation of a worthy ideal’ – I say ‘If what you are doing is supporting your goal, then carry on doing it, if not do something different’ https://youtu.be/UygnXqoKrC4

      Ivan, take the time to check these videos and recording out, you will be pleased that you do.

      Earl Nightingale – ‘Men simply do not think’ – ‘We must control our thinking’

      To Your Ultimate Success

  7. Thank you for the inspirational article. I agree S.M.A.R.T goal setting is very effective in order to achieve your goals. The goal has to be specific, you need to know what you want in order to get it because you cannot achieve something if you don’t know what is it. It has to be measurable because defining the physical manifestations of your goal makes it clearer, and easier to reach. There’s nothing wrong with shooting for the stars but it would be good to get clear on how attainable it is. The goal also has to be relevant to you, you need to know why you want it and whether you are going to achieve what you want with this goal. Usually, deadlines are what switch us to take action so it would be good to have a time-based goal. Without deadline you won’t know whether your goal is achieved or not. Great read! Keep up the great work!

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